Communication Can Change Lives

Are you communicating effectively?

Are you influencing people as powerfully as you can?

Do you know how to get into the minds of people and change the way they look at the world or react to things?

Do you know how to alter the way people percieve you?

Communication is power.   Communication can change lives.  Your ability to communicate will be in direct proportion to the success that you can attain in this world, both privately and socially.  The power of words is  amazing, it’s astounding.  The person who knows how to achieve power with their language, can achieve greatness with anything.

You need to respect words.  More so, you need to respect what words can create in people, what they bring out in people, how they effect others.   Changing the placement of a few words can alter the meaning of any entire sentence.  Changing the emphasis you put on a single word in the same sentence alters it’s meaning.  Tonality, Certainty, Questioning, they all bring forth communication.

Words can make people behave differently.  A proper metaphor can alter the way a person percieves their trouble or their reality.  Words can captivate us and pull at our heart strings.  And words can make us feel things we never thought possible.

Communication is key.

I have been a fan of this video for a long time and am happy to be sharing it with you today.

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How Great Achievers Accomplish Their Goals

Found this great video cut up on success that I thought I would share. There is no secret to success. There is no great mystery to it. It has nothing to do with luck, possibility, chance, or anything else. Tony Robbins says that “Success Leaves Clues.” The true successful people know how to latch on and create their goals and take action no matter what the obstacle and no matter what the difficulty. They have aligned their minds with their beliefs that they know that they can truly achieve greatness the moment that they decide to reach for it and go for it. You to can achieve your goals. You too can accomplish anything. You too can take responsibility for your life and what you get from your life.

You see, DNA, Status, Class, none of these things have stood in front of great men who decided that they would be great. There is a way that anyone can succeed. There’s a way that anyone can get the life that they want. There’s a way. Yes. There’s a way. But, you have to be willing to work for it.

I am not here to sell you on some phony system that will help you become great overnight. None of that push button system. You can accomplish great goals. You can Achieve Great Things. You can do anything that you want to. You just have to be willing to work to do it.

This video is details how so many people have succeeded in their own personal philsosophy. Give it a listen. It’s not that long. You might learn something that you haven’t thought about. Or, it might just be the same old things you’ve looked at before. I don’t know. But, I do know that the message is timeless. You can achieve your goals, you can accomplish anything, and you too can make your dreams come true.

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The Lazy Man’s Trick To Happiness

Happiness can be a lot of work.  I know.  It’s so much easier to just let your emotions dictate themselves rather than actually creating the state of mind that you really want.  So many people don’t understand that happiness doesn’t have to be a miraculous occurrence, nor something stimulated through drugs, or alcohol, or anything else.  Happiness is possible for everyone, no matter who you are, no matter what your circumstance is, if you just choose to be happy.  In 1991 Martin Seligman came out with his book Learned Optimism, which revealed something that all scientist hadn’t thought was the case, and that is that happiness and optimism can be created.  You can make yourself happy if you want to be.  And, as science has evolved, the good news is, you don’t have to struggle all that much… in fact you don’t have to struggle at all.  Isn’t that amazing?

I hope the thought excites you.  I’m going to teach you one of the major techniques that will alter the way in which you think and the way in which you live.  No matter how lazy you are, you can do this one activity every morning, and channel your happiness, boost your enthusiasm, and be a little bit more prepared to face the day.  But first, let’s do a little talk about your physiology.  I like to talk about physiology because I think it’s one of the most underestimated and underappreciated things that we have.

The way you position your body, the way you breathe, the way you focus your attention, and even the way you set your jaw alters the way you think and feels.  Your body is linked to your mind as much as your mind is linked to your body.  If you guide your body to a happier, more relaxed, and better state, than your mind will follow suit.  Understanding that, let’s talk about creating happiness quickly, easily, and within seconds of waking up in the morning.

I always like to say that how you start the morning determines a lot about your day.  Though I don’t agree with much from the Secret, I will say that we are known to spiral, bad days get worst, good days feel like they get better.  The truth… well, that’s for another article.  Starting your morning off right, you can do a lot of things, journals, exercise, focus, mindfulness techniques, mindful acuity… and all of these techniques work to bring untold happiness to your mind.  But, one of the most fun ones was created by a friend of mine, who said that every morning, he woke up, and he rang a bell, and said, “I Really Like Myself, I love everything good and bad about myself!”  His energy picked up.  He felt better.  He felt ready to face the world.

The technique is simple

1. Clap your hands, Ring A Bell, Or Do Anything (But make sure it’s something you can do each morning, so that you can develop an anchor, and each day, it’ll become more powerful of an emotional state!)
2. Think of something very pleasant about yourself, something you really love about yourself in your mind, and adjust your body accordingly.
3. Clap Your Hands, Ring A Bell, Or whatever you choose to do, and yell out, “I Love Everything Good And Bad About Myself!”

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The Worst Socializing Mistakes

Socializing can be difficult for people and for good reason. When you go out into the world it can be scary. We are evolutionarily programmed to protect our reputation. When we were still on the evolutionary cuspate of humanity and formed small tribes, to be ostracized, to make a social blunder, could spell death to us. Today, however, such threats are hardly the case. Today, we now live in big cities, or major communities, and one person’s blunder is hardly noticed, let alone remembered for long, until eventually replaced by another’s blunders. And yet, the fear still exist. And yet, we still want to make sure we can make as good of an impression as possible. And so, there are a few things that people should never do when socializing, and stop themselves from doing.

The first big blunder of socializers can actually be found in people who, outwardly, look like they are the most social of people, and yet, no one likes them. This is bragging. People who strive to be interesting in the eyes of other people are rarely seen that way. Interesting people don’t have to make themselves interesting with stories of their success or failures. These stories might come up, but their quick and to the point. This is good news. So many people struggle with the thought that they have to be interesting to socialize well, but the truth is that anyone who wants to be a good socializer should strive to be interested, rather than interesting. When entering any social situation is ask questions, listen, ask more questions, than talk. Never talk off topic. The worst thing you can do when you’re socializing is talk more than the people you’re socializing with.

The second big blunder that makes people feel uncomfortable in social situations is the interruption. It’s one thing to drop into the middle of a conversation, though not always appreciated, it can be forgiven, and great conversation can start from it, but, never interrupt someone while they’re talking when you enter a social group. Interrupting people you know is also rude and violates the rule of being interested over interesting. Always wait for someone to finish talking before you make a comment or ask a question to enter a group or start a conversation. The moment interrupt someone, people shut down, they’ll consider you rude, and they’ll be waiting for you to leave.

The third and final big blunder for you to avoid is to avoid vulgarity. You can match vulgarity, but, never be the instigator of any vulgar conversation when you’re beginning to meet new people. It can be used eventually, but, at all points, it should always be used sparingly. Vulgarity can make people feel uncomfortable or unnerved. Knowing your audience and knowing the people and using a little common sense should prevent you from making that big blunder.

If you want to socialize properly with people and want to connect with them, avoid these blunders at all costs, remember that everyone is self-conscious, that you need to be interested in them first, rather than trying to appear interesting, and you need to go out and most of all have a great time.

What You Ought To Know About Sales

The idea that people think they can get through life without selling, who say that they hate sales, haven’t looked at their lives accurately enough.  The one thing everyone ought to know about sales is that everyone, everyday, are involved in some form of selling.  When you meet people, talk with them, or have any other form of interaction with them, you’re in a sales predicament.  Social intelligence has been proven to be a bigger predictor of success in the world than actual intelligence.  The ability to communicate ideas and convince people of one’s thoughts decides how far they will go.  A parent, each day, sells their child on the value of school by insisting that they go, even if they don’t want to.  A child sells other children on whether or not he’s a good friend to have.  No matter where you work, you sell your boss on your worthiness as an employee and you sell your coworkers on your worthiness as a colleague.  It doesn’t matter what you do or who you do it with, if you are interacting with people, you’re in sales.  There’s no getting away from it.

                Sales have become a part of our existence.  Though people have thought that in this new world of digital connection, sales were becoming obsolete, the truth is they’ve become even more important.  The fact is that in today’s world of ideas and thoughts, in today’s world of casual interactions and friendships, in a world where networking is as important to your future employment as your application, the ability to sell is more important than ever before.

                Once a person gets past the denial that sales is important and begin to realize that everything they do that interacts with another person, or even convinces themselves on something, involves some form of sales, it’s time to realize that some people are good at sales, and some people aren’t.  This is where most people begin to shut down.  They begin to accept a belief that they’re not good at sales.  However, people are not born salesman.  They are not born great communicators.  The science, to everyone’s relief, just doesn’t show that.

                In the last ten years, the FMRI has done for the brain what microscopes did for the cells.  We have learned that people learn to be charismatic, that people learn to sell well, and that people who aren’t good can become good.  All it involves is some practice.  All it involves is an understanding of strategies, techniques, and principles.

                The first and foremost of these techniques is understanding the power of communication. You don’t have to be the greatest communicator alive to alter your life and alter the minds and lives of those around you.  You don’t have to be a salesman for the techniques of great communication to be harnessed and make your life better.  In fact, though you could spend a lifetime mastering communication, there are really a handful of skills that you need to have just an understanding of and a usable ability with to succeed.

1. Listening
2. Capturing Attention
3. Repetition
4. Simplicity And Directness
5. Metaphor And Story

                When you’ve learned these techniques and begun using them, you’ll begin to notice that people respond to you differently, act toward you differently, and are happy and even excited about doing things for you.  When you become a person who understands that life is sales and that your ability to persuade and communicate your ideas will majorly affect the way you live, you’ll begin to appreciate the subtleties of communication, and understand that even through the most basic of practice, you can improve your presence and your ability to communicate effectively.

Making Your Dreams A Reality

When you want to achieve a dream, when you want to get from location in your life to another, it’s not difficult, it’s not impossible, it just requires a little work on your part.  It may seem scary at first.  It may seem like it’s impossible.  But, when you develop a map to your success, the difficult and impossible, become easy and probable.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step, says the old Chinese Proverb.  A journey to your success begins with a map.  Not just any map however.  But a true success map!

It’s the first day of High School and you sit down in class and written on the board are two questions… “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” and “Where do you see yourself in 20 years?” The idea of this is quite obvious, not only is it a great and revealing look at the students, it’s a very quick way to get the students to possibly begin thinking about their future, and hopefully, if they’re thinking about their future they’ll work harder in the present. However, in the end, this seems to rarely be the case. Teachers and other people are quick to say that students don’t know what they want, or that they change their mind (and these things do happen), but it’s not the only reason.

It’s because, setting goals for the future without setting goals for the present is like being a traveler without a map or a compass, you may have some vague idea of where you want to go, but you have no idea of how to get there. The unrealized nature of a goal set in the future does not form properly in a person’s mind, and much like a child pointing at a toy in a store, crying and yelling, “I want, I want, I want,” until an annoyed parent gives the child a piece of candy which distracts and sates the child from the toy, the person who sets a goal without a full realization of what that goal entails, will be sated by whatever life gives them.

With books and movies on the Law of Attraction being widely consumed, many people have begun to unlock the first part of truly effective goal-setting, and that is absolutely wonderful, but also it must be said, they too have only an incomplete version, and that’s why so many people are still waiting for that better life. Nonetheless, it is the first step to accomplishment, to achieving ones goals and dreams. If you have not done this, do it now… Write down exactly what you want your life to be like ten years from now. Don’t worry about it seeming impossible to achieve or unrealistic, especially at your current state. Reach deep down and pull out everything you want in your life and write it down, be as descriptive and as clear as possible. If you know what the carpets on the floor of your house will look like add it in. Make that world ten years from now as three dimensional and as real in your mind as your current life is right now. Make sure you answer these following questions: What house are you living in, do you have a family, a wife/husband, are you dating, what clothes are you wearing, do you work, where do you work, what car do you drive, how much money do you have, how much money do you make, are you happy, and most importantly, How Do You Act? (Are you confident? Are You Suave? Are you fearless? Are you charitable? Are you well spoken?)

Now that you’ve done that, it should be incredibly detailed, and a bit intimidating, at least if you did what was suggested and put down everything you want in your life onto the paper. But don’t worry, consider your life like a jungle gym in a box. Your vision should be the picture on the box, and your current state should be the two hundred pieces that just poured out of it. Now is time to write your manual so you can start assembling that perfect life. And that comes in a simple seven step process.

The reason this seven step process works backwards, is two-fold, one, when you reverse engineer something, you learn the steps and processes you’ll need to take to get there, you’ll know how the life is put together, how the pieces fit, and  thus you’re not trying to build the life from scratch, but slowly disassemble and reassemble.  The second reason is because people have a propensity of taking awhile to do these steps… when you reach the final step, that step is the moment everything begins, if that step was first, many would forget about it before they got to the rest of the list.

THE PROCESS

1. In Seven and half Years and Five Years, What Will You Have Of The Future You Want And What Will You Be Doing To Get What You Everything You Want By Your Ten Year Goal? What Knowledge Have You Attained?
2. In One Year What Will You Have of What You Believe You’ll Have in Five Years and What Will You Be Doing To Get It? What Knowledge Have You Attained?
3. In Six Months What Will You Have of What You Believe You’ll Have in One Year and What Will You Be Doing To Get It? What Knowledge Have You Attained?
4. In Three Months What Are You Doing To Get The Things You Imagine Having Six Months, One Year, and Five Years From Now And What Contacts Have You Made To Help You Get There?
5. In One Month What Are You Doing To Make Contact With The People You Have Gotten To Help You On What You Want To Achieve and What Information Have You Gathered To Begin To Learn?
6. In One Week What Information Are You Going To Be Collecting To Start Learning What You Need To Know To Accomplish Your Future and What List Of People Can You Begin To Assemble To Contact As Possible Mentors.
7. Today, write down every book you think will be helpful, write down every bit of information you think you’ll need to collect, write down a list of no less than five, though possibly ten dream mentors you would love to have, whether or not you’ve meant them, talked to them, or made an impression on them. MOST IMPORTANTLY GO BACK TO YOUR FIRST PAGE, YOU’RE LIFE GOAL, AND READ OVER AGAIN HOW YOU BELIEVE YOU WILL BE ACTING AS THE FUTURE YOU, AND MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO BEGIN TO ACT THAT WAY TODAY.

It was said, “Act the way you want to be and you’ll become the way you act.” Now you might be a bit concerned that you can’t do it. How you saw yourself in the future, however, lays dormant in you today in the present and you must wake it up and begin to become that person. Start doing what the you from ten years from now would do without a thought. If you saw yourself as charitable be charitable, if you can’t spare a dime today, you won’t be able to spare a dime tomorrow. If you saw yourself as confident and able to speak your mind, act that way today, because however you saw yourself in the future, it will be that attitude that helped you get to where you want to be.

Now revisit every page you’ve written and read every detail for the next week and then return to it at the end of every week, taking note of your accomplishment, your schedule, and where you are today from where you were just a week ago. Every day, take thirty minutes of your time to write down what you’ve accomplished to your final goal and begin to watch your life unfold in front of you, and those two hundred small pieces begin to form your perfect life.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Everyday we tell ourselves stories.  Everyday those stories come to describe for us our lives.  How we see the world.  How we interact with the world.  It’s all determined by the stories we tell ourselves ahead of time.  If we believe that we are people who are not liked, who have nothing to offer others, and who can’t be loved.  Then we create for us a world where our interactions are stifled, where people look down on us, and where love is never available and never offered.  The stories we create of our lives can either be tragedies or comedies.

With all the drama in the world, with all the genres in literature, how can life be summed up to just these two?  It does seem weird to say that we can either live in a tragedy or a comedy and nothing else.  But, in truth, our lives can often be determined by how we see what happens to us in these ways.  Look, the truth is that we can’t always control what is going to happen to our lives.  In fact, we can barely ever control what happens in our lives.  Contrary to the Secret, we do not summon every good and bad thing in our lives.  What we do is look at the good and bad and let it define us in whatever way we want.

We can write our lives as a tragedy.  Or we can write our lives as a comedy.  It’s up to us.  The same things can happen to two people.  One person looks back at those events, no matter how terrible or wonderful they were with a laugh track behind it, and the other looks back at their life with dark colors and low sounds until they can’t help but cry.  How you decide to view your life is going to decide how you live your life!

It’s all up to you.  You’re in control of the story that you make of your life.  So make it a good one.

Taking A Break, What It Can Do For You

Stress is one of the most devestating feelings we have and often the thing we want most to get rid of in our life.  Of course, the things that cause us the most stress, often give us the most pleasure as well.  Our families, our jobs (hopefully), our friendships, and any other relationship.  These great things in our life that move us and define us are often also the greatest points of stress in our day to day life.  A problem at home spells stress.  A problem at work, or just too much work, spells stress.  At every point, at every moment, the things we value in our life are our greatest causes of stress.

That being said, unlike many gurus, we can’t just throw these things aside.  We can’t and don’t want to leave our families, quit our jobs, or end a relationship.  And yet, we also need to deal with the stress when it comes, and it’s going to come.  The fact is that there is always going to be stress in our life, but, when a problem arises, there’s one sure way of removing yourself from the stress, and that’s taking a short break.

Whoa, hold on, you might be thinking, you can’t be recommending I take a break from my work or my family.  And the answer to that is absolutely not.  No, when I say take a short break, I mean, literally five minutes of removing yourself from a stressful situation so that you can regain your barings and rethink your approach.

Everyone has used this technique, the problem is that most people use it wrong.

Never, Never, Never, Think of The Problem while you’re taking that 5-Minute Break.  Focus solely on the solutions.  Focus on ways to solve your problem.  Focus on the ways that you can approach the problem differently.  So many people when they take a break from what’s stressing them, carry around the stress with them.  Don’t do that.

Become a Person That Focuses on The Solution Rather Than The Problem!

It doesn’t take much to do it.

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Three Ways To Create A Joyful World

There is a Secret To Getting Happiness in Your Life.  The discovery of mirror neurons were pretty much a fluke, but, it was a fluke that would alter all understanding of rapport, empathy, and relationship dynamics.  It was a fluke that would teach us something we sort of inately knew but never did.  Joy and Misery create their own company.  When we’re happy, other people become happy around us, when we’re sad, other people become sad around us.

There are ways however that we can increase this effect.  There are ways that we can alter our presence on the world and thus alter the people around us.  You can make your joy infectious and make everyone around you feel greater.  That’s right, you can, by yourself, begin the process of creating a happier more joyful world.

And you can do it in three easy steps:

1. Speak loud and clear and complimentitive.  (Don’t yell at people, but make sure to speak from your diaphram so that you can be heard and that people will hear you–especially when you’re complimenting someone.  Once you begin to notice something good about someone, everyone will begin to notice, and more people will begin to compliment).
2. Listen first, talk later.  (If you want to bring joy and happiness into the world, just start to listen to people first.  You don’t need to be a problem solver all the time.  You just need to listen to them and hear what they have to say.  Sometimes all people need is an ear to talk and they’ll solve their own problems.  Also, when you listen to people first, and talk later, you’ll be able to know exactly what the real problem is, and won’t create a fake issue in your mind, thus making you happier, and them happier.)
3. Offer up Random Acts of Kindness. (Do good for the sake of doing good.  Do it often.  Be generous, be warm, be welcoming, and people will come to you because of it.  The more good you do, the more good you bring to the world, the better people around you will feel and the more they’ll do at the same time).

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Selective Attention

Every Day we look at the world through filters, through opinions, blind to the things we do not expect to see.  Our brains take in 11 Million Bits of Information every second.  Our conscious mind only interprets 40 bits of information.  This means that the majority of the world we do not see or comprehend.  The majority of the world we never focus on.  When our attention is this scattered, when our attention is this misplaced, we are bound to miss things that we are not focused on.

If you’re miserable, you’ll only see misery.  If you’re happy, you’ll see a lot more happiness.  Whatever you choose to filter into your mind is the world in which you will inhabit.

Here’s the key.  Once you see it.  Once you learn its out there.  You’ll always be able to see it.

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